How not to torpedo your relationships

Data-driven, dharma-informed, Dan-tested strategies for improving relationships of all kinds

Every once in a while, I do a shorter, solo podcast episode where I sum up everything that I've personally learned on any given subject.

With Valentine's Day around the corner, I’m sharing seven things I’ve learned about doing romantic relationships better.  They include a key communication skill that I picked up from the great writer and researcher Brené Brown, a cognitive reframe that I learned from legendary couples counselor Esther Perel, and an insight about the relationship between care and love from the psychologist Allison Gopnik.

However, mostly, these are things I've learned by making stupid mistakes in my own marriage, so thanks to Dr. Bianca Harris for putting up with me for the past seventeen plus years.

This is a menu, not a to do list, so pick and choose what resonates with you. And finally, most, if not all of these learnings apply not only to romantic relationships, but to all relationships.

Below, paid subscribers get a cheatsheet to this episode, including key takeaways, the list of seven takeaways, and a time-coded transcript.